So now you are going to get pregnant, right?

I am not entirely sure what IQ was the person to first figure out that you get pregnant easier after adopting, but it must have been really low. Nevertheless, the theory says that because the lady in question can finally "relax, " she gets pregnant as soon as she does the deed (or a month later). Now, I can understand that sometimes a baby in the house is just the right push to allign female hormones to whatever it is to make them more fertile, which has been an occurence well documented by several studies and includes not only adopting but also living in a house with a girl and her baby or just having a good friend with a baby. But I would seriously like to see a person who finally relaxes the second filling in the adoption application.

For one thing, adopting involves large sums of money and I for one do not have $20K in my matress. Heck, even the 3K for the homestudy will be a serious group effort. So stress #1 - how to put the money together to be able to adopt in this century. Then the home study comes as stress #2 as you have a strange person poke through your personal life. Then you are eventually done and on to stress #3 while waiting for a birth mom to realize what a great parent you would make. Of course, there is no way of knowing how long that will take or what kind of mom will like you to begin with. Once the B-mom actually picks you (and now you might well be into 5 years of your quest for a baby), you start to worry that she will change her mind, otherwise known as stress #4. Then the baby is home and stress #5 starts with the usual feeding/diaper/sleep routine while trying to figure out this new member of your family (which, I am told, is a pretty normal stress for a new parent).

So, anyone, when exactly is it that I am supposed to relax? (Ok, the answer is that the 5% that get pregnant correlate with the 5% that get pregnant after quitting trying to conceive and that therefore is very much explainable by pure chance or nature of their issues, but let's pretend that I don't know).