The weekend before last my husband eventualy decided to call his dad. Sure, millions of us call our dads every week and there is nothing too special about it, but my husband has not seen his dad since he was a kid and has not talked to him for the last eight years. My mother in law has gotten divorced with the sole custody of the children when they were around 4 years old and that is pretty much where the contact to the father ended. We do not know whether it was his or her wishes, but as a result the family has been divided ever since with only isolated contacts here and there, usually years apart.
My husband was always very angry with his father to have disappeared out of his life and refused to talk to him. Over the years of our relationship, I have tried to get him to call, email, or otherwise contact his dad. I have even saved his address from a card we got for our wedding. But could never get him there. So I was somewhat surprised to hear Mike say that he feels like calling his dad. And then he really called. They talked for more than two hours and we have gotten a thank-you card from Herbert himself as well as his wife Wanda.
This past weekend Mike talked to Wanda for a good 30 minutes and yesterday with his father for at least another hour. They exchanged hptt's of their respective online pictures so that each can see where the other one lives (we live on the opposite coasts). They have talked about families and my husband discovered he has at least one living aunt and possibly quite a few cousins. All in all it is looking good. Just hoping the trend keeps. Life is too short not to take the opportunity to meet the person who happens to be your father.
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